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countrymom   in reply to jenee   on

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 in response to Marigold...   

I did exactly as you stated.  I am getting food stamps ($159 a month for 3 people) and medi-cal.  I do not receive any cash assistance because I do work seasonally and draw unemployment.  I asked for a one time cash assistance but because I had a job I was told that I could not get any other help.  I just wanted help catchng my rent up.  I also can not get any help with my electric bill because all the money has already been spent for the year.  So it is not as easy as you may think. 

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countrymom  

I do not know how much more I can take

I have had a headache for a week and a half now.  I am sure it is caused from the stress and worry that I am going through.  I do not know what else to do or where else to turn.  The past two days I have started having anxiety attacks. 

 I desperately need money to pay my back rent.  I do not want my children on the street for Christmas.  I don't care about presents and my kids are pretty good about not wanting a lot too.  I have tried to teach them that just being with family is more than enough at Christmas. But if someone does not help me by the end of this week, my kids and I will be living on the streets. 

I will pay back any money that is loaned to me.  I just have to catch up.  My ex left me in a bind and I just can't seem to pull out of it on my own.

Is there anyone out there that can help me?

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 in response to Anora Eldorath...   

Thank you so much Anora. 

I have already signed up for college.  I know this is the only way I am going to get ahead in my life.  I have tried to contact a few agencies and they keep telling me to check back after the new year.  I can't wait that long.  I will be checking back with them but I need at least a partial on the back rent or my landlord will not even consider giving me a break. 

The back rent is the only thing that is really getting to me.  I do not have any credit cards so I do not have any debt that way.  It is just the monthly bills to keep up a household.  I can pay those but I have nothing left over.  I barely have enough to buy food and put gas in my vehicle. 

I am scared that my children and I will not have a roof over our heads by the end of the week. 

I will be checking gor help around town tomorrow.

Thank you for all of your suggestions,

Sheila

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I am a recently single mother of three girls.  I got out of a 17 year mentally, emotionally, and verbally abusive relationship.  I thought I could handle it until the my girls were out of school.  But when he realized that he could no longer hurt me he began the abuse on our kids.  That was the final straw.  It also opened my eyes and I realized that I have lived my entire life with this type of abuse.  I decided that it was time for me to break the cycle and hopefully save my children from having to suffer any longer, the way I have.  I wasstay at home mom all these years with a couple of part time jobs here and there.  I have worked seasonally for a winery and they hired me three months early this year because they found out about my circumstances.  I was hoping they would put me on year round but they have not done that at this time and I have been without a job for the past two months. I am getting unemployment insurance but it is not enough to pay my bills. 

Everyone hears about the physical abusive relationships.  The verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusice relationships are just as bad if not worst.  You do not see what is happening to you.  You lose all self esteem and confidence.  You lose your friends and don't understand why.  You feel like everything that goes wrong is your fault and nothing you do is good enough.

My ex left me with 4 months of back rent and my landlord was working with me and I have been paying my rent since I have been alone. The problem is he wants the back rent and I just don't have the money.  I couldn't even pay a little bit out of each check to even begin to pay it back.  Now my landlord has given me a 3-day notice.  I do not know what to do or where to turn.  I don't want to move.  I don't have the money to get into another place or to rent a moving truck to move.  I have been managing everything for 7 months now on my own.  It is the back rent that I can not pay. 

 

It is so hard for me to ask for help from anyone.  But I just don't know what else to do or where to turn.  I now have a terrible headache from the stress and worry. No matter what I do, it just won't go away.  I have been trying to find a job but it just seems like no one is hiring right now.  So here I am asking for help.  Anything will help....every little bit will add up.  I have spent years volunteering in my community.  Now I am in need and I do not know where to turn.

 Is there anyone out there that can help me and my kids?  I will pay every cent back.  I just don't know what else to do.

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